Wedding Invitation Etiquette: Can I Include My Gift Registry?
How to keep guests from showing up to your wedding in flip-flops and cargo shorts.
Wedding invitations are a crucial element in planning your big day. It can be a little stressful knowing when to send them off, what information to include and what to leave out. Beyond how to properly address wedding invitations, we have answered some of your most puzzling wedding invitation-etiquette questions.
How Do I Tell Friends About Our Wedding Website?
You can include information about your wedding website on your save-the-date announcement. A simple "sallyandmark.com" on the bottom corner of your announcement is all you need. Or you can include an insert when you mail the formal wedding invitation, notifying your guests that they can find more details online at your website. Do not send your wedding website information out over social media; this might give acquaintances, co-workers, and others whom you are connected with the assumption that they will be invited to the wedding when, in fact, they won’t be.
Can I Include Gift Registry Info On The Invitations?
Many guidelines surrounding wedding etiquette have loosened up over the years, but this is simply not one of them. You should NEVER include your gift registry information on the invitation. This is still considered extremely impolite and it comes across as if bringing a gift is a stipulation of your attendance. Your wedding party, parents and close friends will all know where you are registered, plus you will have included it on your wedding website, if you created one. Emily Post will back us on this one, friends, for she also believes “…it is in poor taste to insert a list of places where the bride and groom are registered or a checklist of the things they want and don’t want.”
Is It Polite To Print A Dress Code on the Invitation?
There are several ways to look at this question. You certainly don’t want to insult your guests by telling them how to dress, thus insinuating that they lack enough sense to figure out what to wear. And you definitely don’t want any of your loved ones staying home from the ceremony because they feel they don’t have anything suitable to wear. But you also don’t want any of your guests to be embarrassed at the ceremony because they are underdressed. And how often have you fretted over what to wear, unsure if you should go formal, cocktail, or dress-casual? Proper etiquette includes making your guests feel welcome and at ease, so if you feel some guests might question what they should wear (depending on your venue, time of day, etc.,) it is perfectly proper to add a dress code in the bottom right-hand corner of the invitation or on a reception card.
When Should I Send Out Invitations?
Give your guests plenty of time to clear their schedules, make necessary travel arrangements, and find childcare sitters, if needed. Traditionally, invitations go out six to eight weeks before the wedding, and sometimes up to three months ahead of time for destination weddings. Save-the-date cards should go out six to eight months in advance.
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What Is An Appropriate Deadline For RSVPs?
You need to get a final head count to the caterer and finalize seating charts, so ask for an RSVP no later than two weeks before your wedding. If some invitees haven't responded by your deadline, it is appropriate to give them a quick call and politely ask for their RSVPs.