Note: We do not subscribe to the "learn to love it" mentality
Vintage Engagement Ring
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The heirloom engagement ring has been passed down from generation to generation and now it has found a new home on your finger. But, what to do when the sparkler isn't quite what you always imagined? We're breaking down a few good options—none of which involve learning to love it.

Talk About It

Good communication is the foundation for every healthy relationship—whether it's with your mother, friend, or fiancé. There's no need to start your engagement (and subsequent marriage) off on the wrong foot by keeping your true feelings to yourself. Broach the subject in a nonthreatening way and we're sure he'll thank you for speaking up. Go through your options together and figure out a solution that works for you both—and the thoughtful family member who suggested the engagement ring be passed on to you in the first place.

Here are a few ideas to discuss:

Does He Have a Sister, Brother, or Cousin?

Before you explore other options, inquire as to if there are other family members who are attached to the ring, whether for sentimental reasons or otherwise. If so, suggest passing it on to him or her. Finding a home for an heirloom where it can continue to be cherished as-is will be the best case scenario.

Reset the Stone(s)

If your hubby-to-be (in addition to any invested parties, as outlined above) is okay with updating the ring, consider giving it a new look that is more in line with your taste. Who knows, maybe he'll be touched that this new version represents both you and his family. It sounds like the perfect marriage to us.

Look at it in Another Light

Just because you don't care for it as your engagement ring doesn't mean you necessarily hate it. [On the other hand, if hate is actually a word you would use to describe your feelings about said heirloom, disregard what we're about to suggest.] Maybe it would make for a great cocktail ring or right-hand ring. Alternatively, you might end up being glad you have it years from now as something special to cherish from your husband's family. If any of these scenarios are possibilities, consider placing it in a safe or special place for keeping. Shop for a new engagement ring together that represents both you and your husband-to-be.

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Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you weren't in love with a passed-down heirloom? How did you handle it? Share with us!