"From one mom to another, stop being so hard on yourself."

Perri Ormont Blumberg
November 6, 2018

Even Joanna Gaines is not immune to mom-guilt, and in a candid message, the former HGTV star urged other moms to banish these detrimental feelings.

"I took Emmie Kay out to the garden this morning and I let her lead and I just followed along in her imaginations and her curiosities (In all honesty I was too tired to come up with anything because mama and Crew haven't been sleeping great these days). She told me she wanted to pick flowers and put them in old books that only her and I would know about and then look for them later when we got older," Gaines begins a lengthy caption in a new instagram post, shared on November 4th.

Gaines shares a sweet story of Emmie Kay and mama picking flowers from their garden at home in Waco so they could press them in the books and frame some petals as a keepsake of their "special morning." As they were flipping through the pages of these vintage tomes, the duo discovered that someone else had their very idea with "some pretty leaves many years ago." Gaines continues of the moving mother-daughter experience: "It was like we stumbled on a treasure that reinforced how we would feel when we find these flowers again one day,

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

A post shared by Joanna Stevens Gaines (@joannagaines) on

Of course, motherhood isn't all sunshine and pressed flowers, and Gaines — as a busy mama of five juggling her bustling career with home life — knows this all too well.  "I know at times it can be hard to find simple ways to connect with your kids. Especially in the tired and the hard and busy times in life. It can feel like it's all or nothing. But I really believe it's somewhere in the middle where the grace is extended and these simple, unplanned moments are actually the sweetest," Gaines writes. "I write all this for any of you out there who may experience 'mom-guilt.' I promise you that's a never ending cycle that leads to nowhere. Replace the word guilt with grace. Look for grace in the moments, the small wins that lead to the greatest investments in their little hearts."

Gaines ends her impassioned plea by urging moms to "stop being so hard on [themselves]" and to find grace in the little, unexpected moments. If that's not good advice for all us Southern ladies — mothers or not — we don't know what is.