Modern Dating Etiquette "By Two Old People"
With the rise of dating apps and social media, navigating the choppy waters of modern dating can be tough for Southerners. We've come to expect a certain standard of etiquette that others do not hold as dearly – a standard that, according to our favorite etiquette experts, is just "nice manners."
We asked Gayden Metcalfe and Charlotte Hays, authors of Being Dead Is No Excuse and Somebody Is Going To Die If Lilly Beth Doesn't Catch That Bouquet gave us their take on modern dating etiquette, although the two Mississippi Delta natives joked that their tips were "by two old people, golly."
One of Gayden's biggest concerns, having two children, is safety. "I think that you need to see the person before you accept a date. I think that if you have a roommate or you have a Mama and Daddy in close proximity when you accept a date with someone, you need to introduce them. Give that person accountability to your Mama, your Daddy, your roommate, whomever." The etiquette experts also touched on the subject of splitting the bill – a hot topic in first dating queries. The ladies agreed that if you're planning on splitting, that should be decided up front. But, as Gayden put it – "I would buy your dinner! I would buy you a Coca-Cola!"
We also caught them reminiscing on the original dating app: blind dates. "And, generally, if it was a blind date, you knew a little bit about him, like who his grandparents were in this part of the country," Charlotte laughed. But, no matter who it is, Gayden reiterated, nice manners never go out of style. "They're never out of fashion," she said. "Being thoughtful of people, that's not modern. That's just nice."