Here's What You Should Know About Correspondence Etiquette
From thank-you notes to email RSVPs.
"What's the big thing about a thank-you note? It's not hard. You don't have to write, you know, the Civil War Trilogy."
The South's two favorite etiquette experts are back! Gayden Metcalfe and Charlotte Hays, authors of Being Dead Is No Excuse and Somebody Is Going To Die If Lilly Beth Doesn't Catch That Bouquet, are known all across the region for their sage advice on etiquette conundrums. From baby showers to funerals (with the tagline of, "No one dies better than a Southerner!") these Southern women from the Mississippi Delta have learned all they know from their mothers, and are passing on their secrets to us.
Thank-you notes are a Southern tradition. We write a note for every occasion – sometimes to our chagrin, as Gayden joked. "Here's what I'll tell you all – thank-you notes have ruined every major event in my life. When I married, thank-you notes. When I had my first baby, thank-you notes. When my mother died, thank-you notes. Now, why do you have to write a thank-you note when your mother dies? That doesn't seem right, but everybody's so nice, you've got to."
The duo also discussed how much time you've got to pass along a note – and it's more than you'd expect. For wedding thank-you notes, you have up to a year to send responses to your guests. Funerals also grant the sender a little more time. But for a dinner party, you'd best send along a note in the next couple days.
We also asked Gayden and Charlotte about one of the most pressing correspondence woes in the digital age: email thank-you notes. Stay tuned to see what these Southern experts have to say.