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To most who know her name, Reese Witherspoon is the epitome of a poised, well-spoken Hollywood star.

But at home, it's a little bit of a different story.

"My kids do this whole thing where they make fun of me because I'll say, ‘He did do, but he didn't done do. He done did that,' " Witherspoon, who was born in New Orleans and raised in Nashville, Tennessee, said in an interview with Jenna Bush Hager for Friday's episode of the Today show.

"They'll be like, ‘What? Why are you [saying] ‘did done?' " the Oscar winner and entrepreneur, 40, continues of her children Tennessee James, 4, Deacon, 13 on Sunday, and Ava, 17.

"My little 4-year-old will be like, ‘He did done do!' They think it's hysterical. They don't understand what I'm saying. ‘You can't do … if you're trying to do, you can't done,' " she jokes. "I always know what I'm saying, [and] sometimes [other] people do."

But Witherspoon isn't the only one posing communication challenges in her family. She and husband Jim Toth have another language to decode on the regular: teenager.

"I have two teenagers, and I've discovered that they will Snapchat me back, but they will not call me back," says Witherspoon, whose older children's father is ex-husband Ryan Phillippe. "And I think it's important for people to communicate well with their children."


But even though her kids aren't the best at phone time, Witherspoon admits Ava is a huge help when it comes to her mom's fashion choices.

"I usually ask my daughter, my 17-year-old daughter, ‘Does this look good?' and she'll be honest with me," the actress explains. "She'll be like, ‘No. You do not look good. You cannot wear that.' So I depend on her brutal honesty."

"She's just a sweetheart," the Draper James designer adds of her lookalike daughter. "And just a nice young woman who's turned out to have this huge heart and soul and I'm just so proud of her."

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