The Best Advice From Our Southern Mamas
Growing up is hard to do. When you grow up in the South, there are a few hard lessons and truths that we learn along the way. For many of us, those tried-and-true lessons come from our mothers. (Dads, you give good advice too.) Some of these lessons are easy to grasp. Some of these lessons we are forced to learn the hard way. Let's be honest, when we are young, we are never fully ready for anything and everything life throws our way. But we can't say that Mama didn't warn us. Or at least try to. And the truth is, Mama is always right. In fact, sometimes we wish she wasn’t always right. Recently, we asked our Facebook audience the best advice they learned from their mamas. The takeaways were fascinating, funny, and totally relatable. "Fall in love with someone's heart, not his or her physical appearance." "Worry is like a rocking horse, it keeps you going, but gets you nowhere." "To have a friend you have to be a friend." Here's a round-up of a few gems worth repeating. Straight out of the mouths of your mamas.
Fall in love with someone's heart, not his or her physical appearance. If they have a good heart they will have a good heart the rest of their life. The rest will change but the heart usually remains the same.
Worry is like a rocking horse, it keeps you going, but gets you nowhere.
—Jamie Harris Braddy
Never depend on a man and work hard.
Nothing good lasts forever and nothing bad lasts forever.
On Right and Wrong
The little bird never flies so high that his tail doesn't follow.
—Dani Van Wig
To have a friend you have to be a friend.
—Rhonda Britt Locher
It never gets easier . . . just continues to get different!
Don't judge people too much. None of us are perfect. If they do anything bad, they will face the consequence. You don't have to do anything back.
You have to be early to be on time; you have to have too much food to have enough; and, pee every chance you get.
—Sheila Brown Evans
On Getting Hurt
Have a good cry . . . then get up fix your face, and let the person that caused those tears see that you have a backbone, and that they didn't break you.
—Heather Graham Thompson
On Watching What You Say
Everything that comes up in your mind doesn't need to come out of your mouth.
Respect everyone and what they believe in, it doesn't matter how they were brought up and what they believe they are human beings and deserve your respect, and you deserve theirs.
Be careful who you date, you never know when you will fall in love. Your judgment is better before you fall in love.
Manners are as much about your own self-respect as they are about respect for others.
Gossip says more about the person saying it than who it's about.
On Your Roots
Always be true to yourself and never forget where you came from.
—Judy Beck Koors
If your friends will gossip WITH you, they'll gossip ABOUT you.
—Colleen McCormick McCoy
Always love your mother because you will never get another!
—Anna Kathryn Bogers
On Being Gracious
Always remember to say thank you when you’re at someone's house. And always be ready to help clean up.
That the nicest thing you can give someone is a smile.
On Sons and Daughters
A daughter is a daughter all of her life but a son is a son until he takes a wife.
On First Dates
Never order spaghetti bolognese on a first date.
Mother made me begin using Oil of Olay moisturizer with SPF when I was 17. Best advice ever.
—Amy Hays Mikkelsen
Monochromatic dressing makes you look slimmer. The importance of good outerwear.
—Amy Nehrling Belz
Kill 'em with kindness.
Put a little lipstick on!
—Kathleen Shutello Terchek
On Being Discreet
Don't tell your business to everybody. Keep some things private. And I feel like that is something this world does not do today. Too much out there!
Never take a good friend for granted.
—Valerie Fraser Luesse