The most important piece of advice here? “Always use the woman’s monogram,” says Phoebe. “Period. End of story. People ask me about this all the time, and I don’t think it’s proper to combine monograms or to use the husband’s monogram. Think of it this way: Everything in the house belongs to her, and that’s all there is to it,” she says with a laugh. “What’s mine is mine, and what’s yours is mine.”
A white monogram on a white napkin will never go out of style, Phoebe says. A nice set of these also makes a beautiful wedding present. “Make sure that you find a quality monogrammer,” she says. Some monogrammers use premade templates, while others create their own distinctive styles, which make your linens more special.