Tell us about yourself.
I've been a teacher, counselor, and administrator, and I'm a fairly decent watercolor painter. I'm the mother of two, grandmother of three, and 'parent' to a pair of mixed breed dogs. My husband is a farmer, so my life also includes cotton and soybeans, cows and horses, combines and pick-up trucks. I love cute shoes, the outdoors, and travel, and I read a lot. I'm learning to do yard work, which I believe I'm supposed to call 'gardening’.
When were you diagnosed?
I'm a 31 year survivor, diagnosed at the age of 33.
How has cancer changed your outlook on life?
My first thoughts were about survival - whether I would live long enough to raise my daughters, who were 9 and 10 when I was diagnosed. Then while on chemo and making my way through the first two post-op years (during which time metastases are most likely to appear), I began reassessing my life, which I realized might well have a shorter horizon than I expected. As a result, my priorities shifted and continue to do so. Oddly enough, the primary result has been a lot more fun and more adventure than I might have otherwise had. For me, being reminded that my life span was/is up for grabs has been enormously freeing.
What words of encouragement would you share with others with cancer?
First, try not to panic. Second, buckle up for a roller coaster of a ride. If you're too overwhelmed/confused/angry/scared to pray for yourself, let your friends do it. Keep your sense of humor—some of what's about to happen will be funny. Don't waste time and energy on distractions; if ever there were a time to focus on your own well being, this is it.
Support this non-profit in honor of Barbara:
Joy to Life Foundation (joytolife.org) partners with the Alabama State Department of Public Health to provide free mammograms to medically underserved women in 29 counties in south Alabama.
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